You’re a good neighbor.  You pay your dues, keep your dog on a leash and abide by the covenants. 

Why can’t your next door neighbor do the same? 

“It’s perfectly true that there are a number of people–and I’ve seen this time and again–who just should not live in a condo, HOA, or co-op because they’re just not psychologicallyprepared to share their housing decisions,”says Robert Galvin, a partner at Davis, Malm & D’Agostine PC in Boston who specializes in representing condos and co-ops.
“That doesn’t make them bad people. Those people should simply own a detached single-family home.”

If you’ve been tempted to tell owners they should just pack up and move to a place where there are no rules, you’re not alone. “I think we’ve all thought that at one point or
another,” says Duane McPherson, Addison, Texas-based western region division president at RealManage, an association management firm that oversees properties in
Arizona, California, Colorado, Florida, Louisiana, Nevada, and Texas.

“When people buy into an HOA, the governing documents are there for them to review, and it shouldn’t ever be a surprise that you have to comply with the rules.

McPherson has gotten the point across more politely. “HOAs are restrictive by their very nature to keep property values in place,” he says. “There are people who don’t want
to live by those restrictions and certainly should think of moving to another place. There have been times I’ve said that to people. For those who don’t want to live by HOA
rules, you can tell them in a nice way that maybe they should consider living in a place that doesn’t have these types of rules.”

Getting much more forceful could be dangerous.